The truth about meeting his kids from Dating Dad

You want to meet my kids?  Really?
by Dating Dad, Brian Gallagher

Your dating life has moved along and you both think that you are

keepers.  But you haven't met his kids yet and it begins to dawn on

you that he may be a great guy on his own and the IDEA that he has

kids makes him responsible and ready for committment but the thought

of SEEING him with his kids makes you feel you'll get pushed aside.

Fear not, good lady, this is not the case at all.  You are about to

meet his pride and joy and the kids are about to meet dad's pride and

joy.  This meeting is more for him than it is for you.  It is his

chance to show his kids that there is a woman that is a great fit for

him and that could bring a level of joy to all of their lives.

Now, will this meeting always be a fun and festive time?  No, probably

not.  So what do you do if they are giving you the cold shoulder or

are acting up?  My best advice is to just keep smiling.  It throws

kids off when they know they aren't getting to you.  Let the single

dad defend you.  You just need to keep smiling showing all the grace

that you've been granted and repeat in your head that you are dating

this man for a reason.  That reason is that he is a good man and a

great father.  Give him an opportunity to show you what great kids he

has and let him show the kids what a great lady he has in his life.

After the initial meeting you and the dating dad need to sit down and

talk about it.  He'll probably gather comments from his kids in the

subsequent days and he should share them with you and you should be

open to the positive and the negative comments.  You should also be

very honest with him at this point.  If you aren't feeling the whole

kid thing...you should trust your gut.  Some people say "Oh, you'll

get used to the kids."  Yeah, you might.  You also might not.  There

is no reason to allow the kids to get attached to you if you don't

believe you'll ever get attached to them.  I can say from experience

that it is easier for me to get over a woman than it is for my kids to

do the same.

Embrace the opportunity.  Enjoy the moment.  Be honest.  The benefits

of a dating dad go way beyond just his time and affection.